PARENTING THROUGH DIVORCE
PARENTING THROUGH DIVORCE
There are few adults and parents who are not aware of the challenges and potential difficulties that divorce imposes on children. There are literally thousands of books written about the impact of divorce on kids, both from a positive and a negative perspective. The good news out of this rather depressing research is that parents, through their actions both towards their children as well as towards each other, have a huge influence on how children will adjust to the divorce both in the short and long term.
No parent going through a divorce needs the added stress, anxiety and worry of how their actions are negatively affecting their children. By understanding how to minimize the negative aspects of divorce for children, knowing the typical responses of children to divorce, and working with the other parent to maintain the loving, nurturing environment that a child needs through the divorce, parents can help children to adjust to their new lifestyle. Stressing parent co-operation and communication with regards to raising the child or children is critical, but so is being civil, respectful and positive towards the other parent with regards to their abilities to be a wonderful Mom or Dad to the child.
Many parents struggle to help their children cope with the emotional pain of divorce and learning to live with Mom and Dad in two separate homes. Very few children, or parents for that matter, find that the time they get to spend together is enough. Mom and Dad working together to accommodate each other schedules and the schedules and needs of the kids will help in addressing some of the inequity that is inherent in co-parenting through a divorce and after.
Divorce is no longer an uncommon occurrence in most countries of the world. While countries in North America tend to have higher divorce rates than other developed and developing countries, there are still some common trends and numbers to divorce around the world.
RELEVANCE OF DIVORCE TO CHILDREN
PREVALENCE OF DIVORCE
RELATIONSHIP WITH EACH PARENT
RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN SIBLINGS
MODELS OF PARENTING DURING DIVORCE
RESPONSES TO DIVORCE BY CHILDREN
UNDERSTANDING THE GRIEF CYCLE
AGE GROUPS AND ISSUES
BIRTH TO FIVE YEARS
SIX TO EIGHT YEARS
NINE TO TWELVE YEARS
THIRTEEN TO EIGHTEEN YEARS
5 COMMUNICATION BASICS FOR PARENTS
PARENTING ROLES VERSUS MARRIAGE ROLES
6 TALKING TO KIDS ABOUT DIVORCE
HOW MUCH INFORMATION IS TOO MUCH
COMMON PITFALLS AND TRAPS
KIDS AS CAREGIVERS, SUPPORTERS OR MEDIATORS
KIDS AS SPIES OR MESSENGERS
MONEY ISSUES THROUGH DIVORCE
8 PARENTING PLANS
WHAT IS A PARENTING PLAN?
WHY DEVELOP A PARENTING PLAN?
WHAT SHOULD BE INCLUDED?
HOW OFTEN SHOULD IT BE REVISED?
TOPICS OF CONCERN
HOW TO HANDLE TOUGH CONVERSATIONS WITH KIDS
WHERE TO GO FOR HELP
3 CHALLENGING QUESTIONS YOUR KIDS WILL ASK AND HOW TO ANSWER
WHAT IS A FAMILY MEETING?
WHO SHOULD ATTEND?
WHAT CAN BE DISCUSSED?
KEYS TO SUCCESSFUL FAMILY MEETINGS.